Horse Wisdom — 3 Mindbody Wellness Tips For Getting Grounded and Calm Today
Mindbody Wellness Clarity Tips
Dear Awesome Woman,
Feeling the stress and nerves of this election week? Instead of just one day of tension, the feelings of uncertainty, fear, upset, and overwhelm are being prolonged and dragged out. Adrenaline and cortisol levels are high perhaps making you feel unsafe as well.
Let’s use the wisdom of horses to calm your nervous system and get some grounding and inner peace today. Here are 3 Mindbody Wellness techniques to do just that:
- Get Honest With Yourself — Your Body Needs That From You!
When you’re feeling nervous, one mindbody technique to feeling calmer and more grounded is just to rest your hand on the area that feels jumpy or tight and say out loud, “I’m feeling nervous.” Instead of trying to brush aside the feeling or think your way out of it, honest compassion will do a lot to calm your nervous system.
We can learn from horses regarding this. When a person walks into a closed pen with a horse and pretends to be happy when in fact they are afraid or nervous, the horse won’t feel safe with them — the horse as a sentient being, feels the incongruence in the person’s body. But if the person gets honest with themselves and admits that they are nervous or fearful, then their blood pressure drops, and there is a calming in their body to the point that the horse senses congruence and feels safe with them.
Your body is like a horse — when it’s nervous, get congruent with it — be honest and admit with kindness to yourself how you’re feeling. That dropping inward with compassion, that giving of space to your very human self, settles the nervous system and can make you feel safe in your being.
2. The Safest Place To Be Is IN YOUR BODY.
Get present by feeling your feet on the floor, your soles touching the inside of your shoes or the floor itself. You can even stomp a bit to feel the vibration in your being. Listen to that sound and the other sounds around you. Breathe into your belly and release. Raise your arms up and down, flap like a bird — get expansion in your chest. Smell the smells of your environment. Feel your body on the chair, couch or bed that you are sitting on. Is the surface soft, hard or in between? Just notice. Look in front of you — what do you see?
A horse is always present and in grounded awareness of its body and environment. As often as we want to stay in our thinking mind and dissociate from our body, when we take a moment to focus gently with our senses on the present time and place, we will feel safer. Our nervous systems will calm.
3. Send Love To Your Wild Self.
Imagine a wild horse running inside a round pen. It’s racing alongside the walls feeling nervous, anxious and bewildered. That may be just how your body feels with all that is going on.
Now bring into your imagination a higher-self you standing in the center of the pen. This higher- self you is calm and compassionate, resting her eyes lovingly on the wild horse which is a part of you — your anxiety, your bewilderment, your fear, your frustration, your grief. All these emotions are running around in you.
And then the higher-self you says to the horse, “I see you. I love you. It’s okay to be scared.” She just allows that wild horse to run, to be frightened, to freak out. That higher-self you just stands with compassionate grace for the wild horse. I once heard this metaphor from life coach, Martha Beck, and when I “played” with it in my imagination, I felt a calmness descend into my body. I invite you to try it and see how it feels for you.
We don’t know what the future brings — it is beyond our knowledge to know. But we do have the power to be more centered, calm and loving to our bodies. We do have the power to ground and bring our nervous systems more peace. And G-d willing, this peace and calm can radiate forth into the world and bring a sense of safety to those we are sharing this planet with.
Sending blessings.
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Warmly,
Miriam Racquel (Meryl) Feldman
Somatic Healer, Clarity Coach & Relationship Expert
